Μόνος τα Χριστούγεννα του 2024

[γυναικείες]

Well, I’m alone this Xmas. With my dogs of course. But emotionally alone. I’m interested to hear if anyone else feels the same on the 25’th December 2024? If you do, let me know. Because it feels weird, but I’m here. And it’s ok.

 

[shawnna5]

Είμαι συναισθηματικά μόνος από τότε που ήμουν παιδί, #UsedTooIt

 

[Συνεργιστική]

You can be in a room full of people and feel completely alone. I know that feeling well. I spend xmas with my mom and step-dad and that's it. Our family has dwindled from a bustling big family gathering to just a quiet dinner out at a Chinese food restaurant in xmas day in the past 25 or so years due to deaths and falling outs. Still feel alone on Xmas. Except for my cats, they're my rocks.

We should have a virtual Xmas get together and air our grievances Festivus style and talk shit about happy people

 

[jakemoe]

I'm alone this season myself, but nothing new. I've been alone for years. I'm happy to spend the day with myself & my dog & my bunny. It's enough. I'd rather not travel during the holiday season and my son can't come here with his family so that's the way it is. Just another day.

 

[γυναικείες]

I'm alone this season myself, but nothing new. I've been alone for years. I'm happy to spend the day with myself & my dog & my bunny. It's enough. I'd rather not travel during the holiday season and my son can't come here with his family so that's the way it is. Just another day.

Yeah, It is just another day. I think Xmas is for the kids - but it’s become so commercialised. And the marketing loads it up with importance.

 

[Ισντιτών]

Yep...alone with a small tree. I try to practice gratitude and not fall into the abyss of a pity party. I love Christmas but it's lost its potency, unfortunately.

 

[γυναικείες]

Yep...alone with a small tree. I try to practice gratitude and not fall into the abyss of a pity party. I love Christmas but it's lost its potency, unfortunately.

Yep, I agree with everything you say. I loved the ‘old fashioned’ Christmas. The smells. The tradition. I can’t imagine how kids would react if they got a clementine and an apple in their Xmas stocking If someone does it and has kids, let me know

 

[CoralSpringsPete]

sigh. Same boat. Sometimes I hire a 25 year old to keep me company and cook me some eggs or whatever and that kills the pain for a few hours or a night if need be.

 

[felixcat]

I stopped having "xmases" is my early 20s because of toxic family making it unenjoyable. I've spent most xmases since then doing volunteer work, petsitting, or occasionally just doing nothing.

It's honestly just a date in the calendar. The only thing that makes it hard is the comparison. I know it makes me feel horribly sad and lonely when I see other families just having a nice xmas together like normal people, knowing I can't have that.

So, doing something different where I am not exposed to seeing "happy families" too much really helps. Also, doing something nice for other people makes me happy and grateful and also helps a ton. I mostly enjoy xmas for that reason now and only have a few moments where I wish it could be different.

There is also a #JoinIn hashatg on Twitter/X over the festive period where you can chat with other people who might feel lonely at xmas. I have had a laugh doing that as well as cool conversations. It was started about 5 years ago and as far as I know it's still running. So even if you're stuck in the house or ill, there are ways to cheer yourself up and not feel so alone.

 

[γυναικείες]

I stopped having "xmases" is my early 20s because of toxic family making it unenjoyable. I've spent most xmases since then doing volunteer work, petsitting, or occasionally just doing nothing.

It's honestly just a date in the calendar. The only thing that makes it hard is the comparison. I know it makes me feel horribly sad and lonely when I see other families just having a nice xmas together like normal people, knowing I can't have that.

So, doing something different where I am not exposed to seeing "happy families" too much really helps. Also, doing something nice for other people makes me happy and grateful and also helps a ton. I mostly enjoy xmas for that reason now and only have a few moments where I wish it could be different.

There is also a #JoinIn hashatg on Twitter/X over the festive period where you can chat with other people who might feel lonely at xmas. I have had a laugh doing that as well as cool conversations. It was started about 5 years ago and as far as I know it's still running. So even if you're stuck in the house or ill, there are ways to cheer yourself up and not feel so alone.

Some great ideas in there. Since I last posted I did register to volunteer at my local food bank, and I’m looking in to some ‘group dog walk’ events, though my pair would doubtless make that a stressful experience! I too have family, but there’s too much dysfunction there for me to want to be with them. I’ll check out the Twitter thing! Despite mr musk! lol.

 

[κοχύλια της θάλασσας]

@totts Dogs are family, the best family you can ask for sometimes. I understand though what you mean. That doggy loves you more then life itself.

 

[σερμπέτι]

Fellow "solo Christmasser" here. Have been for a few now, just me and the dogs. Both folks dead, estranged from the rest, and it always feels weird and pitying to go to someone else's Christmas (it's not, it just feels that way)

I take it as an opportunity to do whatever the hell I wanna. If I wanna sleep all day? Cool, pyjamas on then. If I wanna go riding my bike in the snow (can't recommend it) then off we go. TV day? Movie marathon? Extra special dog walk? Perfect.

I love my friends and my chosen family. But I love being alone almost as much (sometimes) cause I have total freedom in those moments. Not something I want all the time but just enough is perfect.

Sure it would be nice to have a supportive, alive family who wanted me round and it wasn't a toxic and shitty environment. I wish my younger self has never had to deal with what he dealt with. But adult me can eat ice cream for breakfast on Christmas day if he wants to (except he shouldn't, cause he's pre-diabetic )

 

[σερμπέτι]

Shout out to all of us, whether it's dysfunctional family or any other reason, we're alone and it's okay.



There's nothing to fear, and anyway, we have each other too!

(And to be honest, I never liked it all that much anyway hehe)